What we feel, see, smell, touch, hear, and taste are just as important and striking as our emotions. Emotions are our soul songs that croon their hearts out — they understand, they analyse, they slide over, or go deep into the vast depths of our being. They caress us just as much as they do unto others. It is an irony of life that some of us reject our essential feelings — the fulsomeness of our emotions. In addition, most of us block our sense of vision, or ward off what we don’t want to hear. Emotions are as precious as a chip is to a gadget. To cull a paradigm — all of us go through turmoil and when something brings us solace, or comfort, we just go about our business by merely shaking our heads. We often say, “Ah, this was what that happened; and, this was how we managed to navigate through troubles.” In other words, we glide through the surface and do not attempt to scratch the label on the outside to look into the crux of the matter.
“Wouldn’t it be ‘loverly,’” as Eliza Dolittle [Audrey Hepburn] expressed in My Fair Lady is a plain, yet skilfully articulated visage of our experience. It grants our emotions far more importance than we do or not always acknowledge in terms of facts. We don’t look at everything we do in life based on facts. We don’t fall in love based on facts. We don’t fondle a charming child based on facts. We follow our call with our emotions, not facts — when our natural instincts tell us to caress a child, we just do it. If something stops us, we just don’t. It is as simple as that. But, look at the manner in which we make our life so complex, or so difficult.
Why we are sometimes not what we are is a reflection of our thoughts, emotions, and responses. We don’t often attend to our inner call — the use of empathy to perceive emotions as a resource. It is also a paradox that many of us view our emotions through terrified eyes. We often think, “What if others call us emotional fools?” This results in a clichéd outcome — being judged by others, as having poor emotional health, impulsiveness, irrational responses, or reactions. We will do well for ourselves if only we grasp the idea that impetuous and unreasonable behaviours occur only when we are destabilised by the faults and apathy of our emotions, or are emotionally insensitive and apprehensive.
It is not difficult to change and amend the equation, if only we use our emotional intensities to process our emotions as we experience them. Once this happens, we are less likely to experience the anxieties that occur when unanswered troubles are activated, or set-off, by topical events. Have you not seen some people depending exclusively on the intellect and hard numerical data in the process of problem solving? Likewise, successful people often recount as to how a suitable decision was ‘engineered’ at the spur of the moment, or ‘gut feeling,’ which turned the tables and made them what they are today. Yet, how many of us use our gut feelings, a major component of our emotional attributes, in decision-making? Things work best when we become more conscious and responsive to our feelings and make good use of them and evaluate their impact on our behaviour and others’ behaviour. Or, recognise, and appreciate, why they were created, released, and resolved in our minds. Most importantly, we’d all do well to understand that we are much more intelligent than what modern science suggests.